You didn't learn to walk the first time you managed to stand. You didn't speak in complete sentences right after uttering your first word. In most case, success comes with practice. So why do we expect it to be any different with losing weight or overcoming overeating?

First, check your expectations and goals for yourself. Losing a great deal of weight in a short period of time is not usually recommended, and often is down right unhealthy! Weight tends to stay off when lost slowly. Begin then by not being so hard on yourself, lower your expectations and set tiny goals. It is not an act of failure if seek the guidance of a qualified therapist. There are many on-line and qualified therapists who can act as coaches and guides through the process of weight loss. With smaller goals and someone to help keep you in check you are well on your way to overcoming overeating and losing the weight you desire to lose.

Secondly, incorporate lots of self talk. Your on-line therapist can help by suggesting some cognitive-behavioral techniques that will help you through this time. Lots of affirmations and self reassurance can be used to get you through the moments that seem tougher. Your counselor can help you identify those times and come up with some behavioral changes or different responses. As an example, if stress sends you to the refrigerator, the on-line counselor can help you redirect yourself in times of stress to perhaps taking a walk, even a short one at first is helpful!

Next, just because you feel you have "failed" at this process before does not mean you will always fail when attempting weight loss. If unhealthy food choices keep coming into your life, an on-line counselor can guide you on ways to make healthier food choices. Habits are a part of our humanity. Breaking those habits is never an easy task. Don't take on the task alone. Gather people around you who are going to be supportive, and sometimes the most supportive people can be those who DON"T know you! Family can be well meaning, but how many times have your family members also been the one's to say: " Ah go ahead and have dessert, I made your favorite!"

It is important to recognize, though you may not always believe it, you are NOT alone. Losing weight, overeating and not so healthy food choices are issues that plague many worldwide. Once connected on line with a counselor who can support you and guide you, you may also search out on-line weight loss groups, chat rooms and forums where you can be supported in your all your efforts.

Finally, we all have bad days. We all make mistakes. Sometimes you want to choose a safe comfort food over a "healthier" choice. So you did. So what! Take a breath, admire yourself for recognizing it, instead of punishing yourself or throwing your hands up in the air figuring you have blown it. You have not blown it. It's over, and in the next moment, you can choose again.

Losing weight is not easy, but you can do it. It's more than ok not to do it alone. Find a specialist, a counselor or therapist who specialized in getting to the "real" emotional issues, a caring support and guide to help you reach your goal!